Relational Life Therapy Resources

If you're not yet ready for couples work, or you'd like something self-paced, the Relational Life Institute offers online courses and workshops we can recommend. They cover topics such as self-esteem, boundaries, parenting, staying in love, and moving on from betrayal.

Read by Terry Real, this audio program teaches the core skills of Relational Life Therapy: how to stand up for yourself and stay loving at the same time. It runs for about six hours.

Terry Real's most recent book. It looks at how our culture's focus on "me" gets in the way of closeness, and offers practical ways to turn conflict into connection and move from "you and me" to "us".

A practical guide to the everyday skills of a healthy, grown-up relationship: speaking up with respect, listening with generosity, and replacing blame and defensiveness with honesty and repair.

Explores the emotional distance that can grow between partners, and how to bridge it through understanding old patterns, mutual respect and vulnerability.

Terry Real's first book, about the hidden depression many men carry, and how breaking the silence opens the way to strength, self-awareness and closer relationships.