Articles by Therese
Why empathy needs safety
Empathy depends on feeling safe. When we’re regulated and standing level with someone, we can truly see them.
The Prince of Leonard Avenue
No partner can heal our childhood wounds. When we stop asking them to, we meet them in the present.
Rupture and repair: why good enough is enough
Parents and babies are in sync only 30 per cent of the time. What matters is finding the way back.
How we learn as children
Like a panda copying his keepers' grimace, we repeat defences learned in childhood, but what was learned can change.
We see what we expect
Our brains see what they expect, in optical illusions and in our partners. Generosity is the antidote.
