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Explores how our brains are shaped by our relationships, from our earliest attachments onwards, and how close relationships continue to change the brain throughout life.

In short chapters, a leading neuroscientist explores consciousness and the central role that feeling plays in making us who we are.

Drawing on long-term developmental research, this book looks at how the way we see ourselves and the world takes shape in our relationships, from infancy onwards.

Brings together attachment theory and neuroscience to explain how therapy helps people heal from difficult experiences and relationships.

Terry Real is the founder of Relational Life Therapy. His website has articles and videos on relationships.

Terry Real's YouTube channel shares short talks and conversations about his approach

An accessible exploration of how the brain creates our experience of the world and of ourselves.

If you're not yet ready for couples work, or you'd like something self-paced, the Relational Life Institute offers online courses and workshops we can recommend. They cover topics such as self-esteem, boundaries, parenting, staying in love, and moving on from betrayal.

A practical and compassionate guide for parents, focused on connection, boundaries and helping children manage big feelings.

You'll learn why a healthy relationship isn’t built on proving your partner wrong, but on making room for two realities at the same time.

Just because you understand your patterns, reactions, and triggers doesn’t mean your relationship will automatically improve.

Terry Real's most recent book. It looks at how our culture's focus on "me" gets in the way of closeness, and offers practical ways to turn conflict into connection and move from "you and me" to "us".

A practical guide to the everyday skills of a healthy, grown-up relationship: speaking up with respect, listening with generosity, and replacing blame and defensiveness with honesty and repair.

Explores the emotional distance that can grow between partners, and how to bridge it through understanding old patterns, mutual respect and vulnerability.

Terry Real's first book, about the hidden depression many men carry, and how breaking the silence opens the way to strength, self-awareness and closer relationships.

Read by Terry Real, this audio program teaches the core skills of Relational Life Therapy: how to stand up for yourself and stay loving at the same time. It runs for about six hours.

From the Author of "The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust" Dr Ed Tronick explains the Still Face experiment, the research he pioneered on how babies respond when connection breaks down.

Explores the idea that emotions aren't simply triggered in us, but are built by the brain in the moment, shaped by a lifetime of learning.

From the author "Good Inside" A full-length interview with Dr Becky Kennedy

Everyone loses their temper from time to time — but the stakes are dizzyingly high when the focus of your fury is your own child.

Psychotherapy is a practice in search of a theory. Recent advances in relational neuroscience and attachment research now offer convincing avenues for understanding how the “talking cure” helps clients recover.

A short, readable collection of essays about how our brains evolved, how they work, and how they work together with other people's brains.

Drawing on decades of research, this book shows that mismatch and repair are a normal part of every close relationship, and that working through them builds trust, resilience and a stronger sense of self.