Everyone

  • Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain

    A short, readable collection of essays about how our brains evolved, how they work, and how they work together with other people's brains.

  • The Brain has a Mind of its Own

    Psychotherapy is a practice in search of a theory. Recent advances in relational neuroscience and attachment research now offer convincing avenues for understanding how the “talking cure” helps clients recover.

  • How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain

    Explores the idea that emotions aren't simply triggered in us, but are built by the brain in the moment, shaped by a lifetime of learning.

  • Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love

    Read by Terry Real, this audio program teaches the core skills of Relational Life Therapy: how to stand up for yourself and stay loving at the same time. It runs for about six hours.

  • How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women

    Explores the emotional distance that can grow between partners, and how to bridge it through understanding old patterns, mutual respect and vulnerability.

  • The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

    A practical guide to the everyday skills of a healthy, grown-up relationship: speaking up with respect, listening with generosity, and replacing blame and defensiveness with honesty and repair.

  • Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

    Terry Real's most recent book. It looks at how our culture's focus on "me" gets in the way of closeness, and offers practical ways to turn conflict into connection and move from "you and me" to "us".

  • Why You Feel So Lonely in Your Relationship

    Do you ever feel completely alone while sitting right next to the person you love?

  • The Best Way To Diffuse Reactivity and Recenter Yourself

    Just because you understand your patterns, reactions, and triggers doesn’t mean your relationship will automatically improve.

  • This is what a Healthy Relationship looks Like

    You'll learn why a healthy relationship isn’t built on proving your partner wrong, but on making room for two realities at the same time.

  • Terry Real Online Courses

    If you're not yet ready for couples work, or you'd like something self-paced, the Relational Life Institute offers online courses and workshops we can recommend. They cover topics such as self-esteem, boundaries, parenting, staying in love, and moving on from betrayal.

  • Being You: A New Science of Consciousness

    An accessible exploration of how the brain creates our experience of the world and of ourselves.

  • Terry Real YouTube Channel

    Terry Real's YouTube channel shares short talks and conversations about his approach

  • Terry Real Website

    Terry Real is the founder of Relational Life Therapy. His website has articles and videos on relationships.